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Ashes and Hearts

Posted by on Feb 14, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

     

 

I can’t remember the last time Ash Wednesday was on Valentine’s Day.  Come to think of it I never realized they could both share the same day so I did a bit of research and found out the last time Ash Wednesday fell on Valentine’s Day was back in 1945.  Thankfully I overheard someone talking about it otherwise I would’ve completely forgotten about it being the first day of Lent, eaten some type of chicken since I’m not big on meat then felt guilt-ridden upon discovering what I’d done.  I’m so glad that the mass is in the evening so I’ll be able to attend it unlike the past several years due to my work schedule.

 

As for Valentine’s Day I savor chocolate but that’s the extent of it.  I’ve never been fond of flowers or roses and can’t think of a better way to celebrate the most lovey-dovey of holidays than to watch the most fitting of movies such as the 1981 slasher film My Bloody Valentine which pretty much sums up my viewpoint of  St. Valentine’s Day.

   

Wills and the Aftermath

Posted by on Feb 2, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

 

 

This particular entry is one I’ve been wanting to post for a while now as it gives new meaning to the proverb “Where there’s a will, there’s a way” or in this case a way out for some.  It’s also something that’s gone on in families for years and will continue to indefinitely.  Anyone having gone through the formalities of a will, especially if it pertains to a substantial amount of money, property or other article of value can more than identify with what I’m about to write.  Many families, large or small are extremely tight-knit enjoying get-togethers as often as possible.  Of course not everyone agrees on everything particularly at holidays and when coupled with alcohol which happens quite frequently in families but nonetheless it’s still a time for people to all visit with each other.  While family gatherings can be a time of happiness, stories, laughter, numerous photos and of course food things can drastically change when a member possessing a vast financial portfolio passes away.  The smiles abruptly fade thus exhibiting peoples’ true colors as dark as can be.

 

Whether someone passes away from old age, a long-suffering illness, suddenly or any other unfortunate manner if they were well off in terms of resources just about everyone’s hands become outreached in wanting their share.  Of course there’s the heartache and tears, especially at the funeral, wake or other type of service held but once the procession is over and the grief has somewhat subsided the subject of the will arises as the tears quickly dry replaced with widened eyes and perked up ears at the thought of what relatives will soon be inheriting.

 

Whether family members attend the reading of the will or receive a copy in the mail often times when they learn what, how much or little they’ll be receiving as opposed to others emotions ranging from jealousy to pure rage are immediately incited.  Some feeling a sense of entitlement while others think certain people should never have been written in.  By the time the estate attorney or whoever else reading the will aloud or the person/persons reading it on paper is finished some are ecstatic over their newly acquired inheritance while others want to punch specific beneficiaries in their throat, throats or possibly commit some other bodily injury to them.  I’m sure they’ll also be cursing the testator due to their decision as to who gets what.  

 

I can only imagine the expletives spoken/screamed by relatives who feel completely f*cked over once they get into their vehicles as they leave or have finished reading what they’ve just been left.  Forget the family functions as now emotions of bitterness, resentment and possibly hate run strong thus destroying any future plans of togetherness for years to come if not permanently.  Suddenly widows, siblings and every relative named or not named in the will feel they should have received more or at least something while at the same time they feel others shouldn’t have gotten anything.  Before long accusations begin, family members start dredging up things from the past while claiming to be perfect and before you know it that once close family is no more.  You now look at your family who, just weeks or even days earlier were as thick as thieves but now due to the death of a member who had a large amount of money, property, valuables and even insurance policies certain people aren’t speaking to one another while verbal as well as physical confrontations occur among others and in many cases family members contest the will for a number of reasons.  This is prevalent in many families as it’s occurred in mine on more than one occasion and I guarantee things are never the same as they’d once been prior to the loss of a relative.

 

Then there are situations of someone having been in a relationship with a person.  They’re as much a couple as can be except they aren’t married and neither is in the other person’s will.  They do everything together including having children then one of them dies unexpectedly and immediately the man or woman’s family shows up complete with their attorney and World War III erupts.  Since there was no will the deceased person’s family claims they have exclusive rights to his/her worldly goods while their better half fights back and since a child or children are involved it becomes even more contentious.  From litigation to going so far as to hire private investigators to dig up their past it becomes an absolute nightmare for everyone involved and many times the end results are not fair.  The same thing goes if the man or woman has children from a previous marriage or relationship as now they’re clashing with their parent’s domestic partner in court over what else?  MONEY!!!!!!!  Even going so far as to evict that person from the home they’ve been living at with their partner and many times the children legally have that right.  Lovely.

 

There are also times when illegitimate children suddenly appear out of nowhere after the person they’re claiming to be their parent who was well off dies adding more unnecessary grief to the family or other member who mysteriously crawls out of the woodwork now that a relative they’ve only met a few times, once or never has passed as they deviously seize the opportunity to cash in.  The perfect plot for innumerable Lifetime Movies.

 

Isn’t it strange how, when someone wealthy becomes ill and knows they don’t have much time suddenly relatives who’ve had little or no contact with them begin to appear making it seem as if they’re worried about their ailing aunt, grandfather, etc. when in reality they just want a piece of the pie filling and all only to discover it’s often times rancid?  Many times they’re hoping to make it big by relying on their family member to kick the bucket in hopes of inheriting bank.  Forget working at a job like most people just wait for your rich relative to croak.  And let’s not forget kissing one’s ass in hopes of collecting which is quite prevalent in families as the outcome is sometimes in the person or leeches’ favor yet other times is not.    

 

That old saying of how life isn’t fair is exemplified especially when it comes to wills in terms of who gets what and how much when a sizable amount of money is involved.  I can only imagine the infinite number of families who’ve battled each other out in court over a relative’s assets often times making them like asses.  Insults slurred, allegations yelled, fistfights, gavel pounding and everything in between because everybody involved wants what they feel is theirs.  Those who say money doesn’t always change people can try bullshitting themselves but let them be named as beneficiary in someone’s will and inherit a considerable amount of cash then we’ll see if they’re the same person as beforehand.  

 

There’s a program called The Will: Family Secrets Revealed that, unfortunately is no longer on that depicted real-life stories of celebrities, political figures and other important people who bequeathed what and to whom which caused nothing but dissention and legal disputes sometimes fueled by greed yet others simply wanting what’s just.  Whether it’s the children fighting their mother/father’s spouse who, most times isn’t their biological parent over money, high-priced items, property or in many instances royalties.  Often times it’s the second or third wife of someone notably wealthy who only married him for his money and is now wrangling with his kids, who are many times around the same age or even younger than them as her over his estate.  There have been so many stories about famous people and the internal chaos enduring in their family as they all go for the jugular in terms of getting what they want.  The sad thing is most of the time the stepmother or sibling winds up with the majority of the funds while the children receive only a portion of them.  I loved watching the program because it made me realize no matter how rich a family is they also have problems.  Sometimes more than others as they strive for what they believe is theirs.       

 

Then there are lessons parents or other relative like to teach members of their family.  Take for example, an astute businessman who amassed a fortune and his kids feel they’ll be more than taken care of after he’s gone.  Imagine their aghast upon discovering he left them only a fraction of his net worth or nothing at all depending on the person with the rest being divided between his wife which most likely won’t be his first and may even include HER children, various charities or someone/something else.  They’re immediately consumed with immense rage and possibly hatred even resulting in them being glad they’re father’s dead.  Why?  Because as his children they felt deserving of having his entire estate be equally split among them and now they feel royally f*cked over.  Maybe they were but at the same time maybe their father had reasons for doing what he did.  Whatever the case this has happened in many families and whether it’s right or wrong it undoubtedly affects each member.

 

My feelings run deep regarding money inherited from someone’s will as I know firsthand how much friction it can cause.  It’s also one of the many reasons why families are never the same as they’d once been following the passing of someone having had a tremendous amount of means.  I also feel that in many situations those who are left a significant amount of money are not at all deserving of it while those who truly are receive only a snippet of what they should.  A prime example of how unjust life can be.  Such are the cases of men/women who marry solely for the purpose of financial gain.  They cause a lifetime of turmoil among their now widowed family often times with the end result being that they’ll be set for life or at least for a time being depending on their lifestyles while the children of the deceased receive a paltry amount of what they should have.  Almost as if the widow or black widow has the devil on her/his shoulder.

 

Other instances include family members, business partners, so-called friends or a number of other unscrupulous people who manipulate somebody into changing their will or naming them sole beneficiary of their entire estate.  Another example could be family members or distant relatives who are not at all close to someone yet due to a number of legal reasons could end up with all that person’s valuables including policies whereas that same person could have had a caregiver who always made sure they were fed, clothed and alright but since they had no will made out that person’s out of luck unless of course they want to take it to court thus adding more compounding problems to the situation.

 

The list goes on in terms of how completely arduous it can be when it comes to the protocols of a will including everyone involved but one thing I know is that life has a way of balancing or in this particular circumstance evening things out.  While it’s true that greed consumes countless people, especially upon learning (or planning) that they’re being named as beneficiary in someone’s will all the cash/materialistic objects they obtain are not at all good and if anything are evil goods.  It’s not money they worked for but rather collected or schemed to get their hands on and despite whatever acquisitive items they buy with that corrupt money I like to think it will most definitely come back to them in more ways than they could ever think possible.  Unfortunately; however, it doesn’t always work like that as there are people who commit malevolent acts their entire lives and nothing ever happens to them.  They live superb lives despite what they did to get the money but instead of karma coming back at them they continue to live carefree, often times extravagant lives.  That’s when one questions God as I have innumerable times and will for the rest of my life. 

Spirited Saturday

Posted by on Jan 28, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

                                               

 

Yesterday I had the afternoon off and just the sight of grass even if it’s horrendously muddy outside excites me.  Ever since December the snow’s been dreadful.  Mounds of white crapola, frigid weather and no desire to go out.  So being able to look out and see the neighborhood instead of piles of snow in front of each person’s house is a wonderful thing.  I was all ready to exercise when the doorbell rang.  Imagine my surprise to see two girls selling what else but Girl Scout Cookies.  Being a former Girl Scout I had to fulfill my obligation since I always hoped people would buy from me.  With that I purchased four boxes but what many people don’t realize is that when the Girl Scouts go door-to-door it’s a sign that spring’s not too far away.  While I don’t mind winter it’s the snow I absolutely loathe and after almost two months of seeing it, having to drive in it and just wanting it gone being able to look outside at having it be bright gives a person a more positive outlook on life or at least for the day.  Add Girl Scout Cookies to the mix and it can’t get any better.  Well, it could but yesterday gave me hope.  I also had a better work out than I would have had the bell not rung.

 

 

Spontaneity

Posted by on Jan 25, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Today was quite productive yet not at all planned.  Since I got off work early I decided to go to church seeing that I no longer attend mass.  Thank you Catholic Diocese.  So after spending a little more than an hour I happened to stroll into this particular room that has knick-knacks for people to purchase which goes toward the church.  At first nothing caught my eye but while reading through their books I saw one titled The Vatican’s Exorcists.  It couldn’t have been a more fitting title so of course I bought it.  It’ll be the perfect thing to read after watching one of my real-life crime dramas about someone being murdered.  When I was finished since I had nothing more to do I figured it was the absolute perfect day to give blood.  I haven’t in almost a year-and-a-half and my blood type is exactly what is needed due to the shortage at this time.  I also said a little prayer in hopes that my blood wouldn’t be deferred as it had once been several years ago.

 

Thankfully I had the required level to be able to give and it’s really a good feeling knowing I could help people who need it.  It’s also the perfect excuse to go home, put on my jammies and do nothing but watch television for the rest of the night which is exactly what I plan on doing.  In all the times I’ve given blood never once have I made an appointment.  I just go in and despite often times waiting it always seems to work out.  Sometimes when you strategize it never seem to turn out well yet other times when you do things spur-of-the-moment the end result is fantabulous!  

 

Sweet Dreams which I’ll totally have once I begin reading my book. 

Major Vehicle Phobia

Posted by on Jan 21, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

So I planned on ringing in the New Year by posting the most thought-provoking and brutally honest entry yet only I miscalculated the length of time it would take as I’m still in the process of writing it so what better a time than now to explain my beyond apprehension when it comes to backing out of spots in parking lots.  It absolutely terrifies me so I always try to park in the space ahead so all I have to do is simply drive out.  There are times; however, when the only way to park is in a spot that requires the backing up of a vehicle unless of course one wants to drive forward thus causing severe damage to their car, truck or SUV in addition to possibly getting fined for what could be considered vandalizing public property.  That said or in this case written when I’m forced to back out of a spot it takes the word anxiety to sky-high levels.  

 

I panic that while backing out another car driving by might not see me as is the case many times in parking lots and hit me, then there are people walking by I may not see as well as having an overall feeling of dislike since driving forward is just so simple.  You get in, look both ways, pull forward and you’re off.  Whereas when backing out there’s the turning of the wheel and the constant watching to make sure no one’s coming.  Driving forward is just much better for me.  

 

There are times if I go to a store and the only nearby spots available require backing out I’ll walk further just to be able to park where I can drive out.  Walking several more steps are more than worth hearing a crash or a scream.

End of Holidaze

Posted by on Jan 2, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Words can’t begin to describe my elation over the fact that the holidays are finally over.  No more maudlin Christmas songs that have been re-recorded over and over again.  No more decorations I’ve been forced to view for the better part of the last two months.  And last but not least an end to the sappy movies which Lifetime has been airing since November.  Call me a Grinch but I’m so tired of having to celebrate the same holiday year after year from unnecessary spending, receiving items which most times becomes a return and the entire hubbub that goes along with it.  I haven’t even begun my returns yet and the thought of having to do so is enough for me to want to get back into my pajamas and stay in them for the next week.  I’m just glad they’re over and done.  That is until ten months from now.

Just Another Day

Posted by on Dec 31, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Since this is my last entry for the year it’s the perfect time to write of the first time I heard the idiom “See you next year” which I took literally.  I was in my fifth grade P.E. class and as we were leaving my teacher told us “See you next year” and I was so confused as I’d never heard anyone use that phrase before.  For the rest of the day I really thought we not only had Christmas break but that we wouldn’t have to go back to school for a year.  My hopes were completely dashed; however, when I got home and asked my mother what my teacher meant and she said it was something many people say if they’re not going to see someone until after New Year’s Eve.  Damn. 

 

As stated in previous entries I’m not a New Year’s Eve person at all and the more people talk about the upcoming year the more I want to stay in the early 80’s.  Speaking of which I’m watching Classic MTV and wishing they would play music videos from 1980-1989 continuously.  Truly wishful thinking.  This is how eventful my New Year’s Eve is.  I’m making a list all of my prior calendars from years past to ensure the one I get for 2018 is entirely different from the rest as it’s extremely important to have the most perfect calendar to view each day.  

 

I am looking forward to four fun-filled hours of real-life crimes all taken place on New Year’s Eve.  So let the others watch the ball drop I’ll be captivated by murders thus furthering my already overly suspicious mind.  Cheerio.   

Glimmering Snow and Shimmering Lights

Posted by on Dec 22, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Once again Christmas is upon us but unlike when I was younger and anxiously awaited Santa’s arrival the holidays have now become meaningless.  Malls and other retailers displaying Christmas merchandise as early as October since the holiday is  now all about how they can all meet and surpass their quotas.   While  I’m as disillusioned as one could be pertaining to Christmas as well as New Year’s Eve which is my least favorite holiday there are certain things I’m absolutely enamored with such as snow globes.  Ever since I remember seeing my first snow globe when I was in kindergarten I’ve been completely enthralled with them.  Miniature artwork from tiny people to innumerable other objects figure enclosed in glass filled with water and artificial snow while atop a ceramic figure is so serene and when you shake it the synthetic snow disperses all over making it appear as if it’s a glass-filled fantasy.  

It’s amazing how many styles of snow globes, also referred to as water globes exist.  Cities, animals and landmarks just to name a few that are captivating to look at.  There are variations of snow globes including ones that light up, play music and have electric motors enabling automatic snow to swirl around without having to be shaken and every time I turn one of those on it makes me wish I were inside that very glass-encased globe with fake or real (depending on my mood) snow fluttering all around me.  Talk about a major Winter Wonderland.

 

Objects made with LED lights are another dazzling creation I revel in looking at.  Whether it’s of a flashing snowman, Santa or a number of other eye-catching items they’re enchanting to look at especially while watching real-life crime shows which may explain why I own several.  In fact, just a few days ago when I was finishing the last of my dreaded holiday shopping I came across a magical night light that not only interchanges between three color modes it also has a star mode so when it turns on multiple stars along with the moon appear.  All that’s missing are hearts, clovers, diamonds and horseshoes which are shape of the marshmallows in Lucky Charms cereal.  Now I totally want a bowl of  Lucky Charms but only if the little leprechaun appears.  I guess they really are magically delicious!

 

 

 

                           

Pouty Lips? Such Bullshit!

Posted by on Dec 8, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

As technology continues to progress from social media to the latest phones and various ways to watch umpteen television shows as well as movies along with every other innovative device people feel compelled to keep up with the one thing I despise more than anything else including pea-brained people who take pictures of themselves is when girls pucker their lips as if they’re models posing.  Are you f*cking kidding me?  It’s now become an epidemic.  Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and all other social networking sites displaying all these simpletons making that same stupid face which I refer to as kissy lips.  Why do these followers continue to do this?  Do they think they’re gracing the cover of ELLE?  Will these brainless, sheeple bitches ever stop this absurd behavior or will it remain a permanent annoyance forever?

 

I don’t know when or how this explosion of sorts began because I sure as hell know this never happened when I was in school.  Then again there were no technology platforms either which is where this entire idiocy began.  Guys did; however, begin wearing sideburns circa 1990-19994 due to the immense popularity of Beverly Hills 90210 but it wasn’t at all the stupidity compared to what’s going on now every time girls post photos of themselves while pursing their lips.  When I look at various web or other social sites and see innumerable pictures of girls mostly ranging in age from teenagers all the way up to women in their 60’s (as evident of online photos of distant relatives I’ve yet to meet) it’s utterly sad that this is the extent of what they’ll do for attention.  Celebrities included.  Not only do I see carbon-copies of girls, whether being serious or just joking around making that same dim-witted face, they actually look as if they’re about to go down on someone.  A class act!

 

For those unaware of this the early 90’s became the mecca for supermodels and when they’d make kissy (also referred to as duckface) lips it was appropriate since they walked the runways worldwide and were adored by millions but for imbecilic girls as well as women to make the same faces is absolutely ludicrous.  Even if they’re fooling around for the camera why do they pout their lips together looking as if they’re about to suck somebody off?  The more I see this I think of one hilarious line from the movie The Great Outdoors when Roman, referring to hot dogs says “You know what they make those things out of, huh Chet, you know?”  “Lips and assholes!”  Which is exactly what I think every time I see these empty-headed girls’ same face.  I don’t want to think about the part about hot dogs but I couldn’t agree more about the last bit because the more females (as well as males) make that same vacuous face with their lips the more they look like assholes.  I’ve seen girls do this in malls, grocery stores, public restrooms and even at work.  Wannabe’s puckering their lips while taking pictures of themselves with their cell phones for all their moronic friends/followers to see.  If this type of behavior was in its infancy I could understand many people wanting to join in but come on it’s been going around for I don’t know how long.  Give it up already.  This is a prime example of when the phrase “What the F#ck?” can’t be more appropriate in terms of explaining this entire craze. 

 

I will admit one thing regarding kissy lips.  Whenever I want my dog to kiss me I tell/sing him in baby talk “Gimme kiss kiss” then purse my lips together and usually, but not always he comes up and kisses me on my lips.  And that’s the ONLY time I do that!  Mwuah!           

My Comfort Zone

Posted by on Nov 30, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Things have always come difficult for me my entire life.  In school while other kids would be working on a project or following along with the teacher I’d be several steps behind not understanding what to do or simply drifting off into one of my many fantasies due to my inability to concentrate.  As I’ve gotten older things haven’t changed only now I can accept it.  When I’m taught something instead of immediately catching on it takes me a few times of practicing until I finally get it while others have no problems.  The story of my life.  At my current job it took me almost a month until I got it down pat.  One month while it takes most people no more than a day.  Once I got the hang of it I had no problem but the issue I’ve had my whole life is that things always take me longer to learn than others and it’s not fair.

 

When I first started my current job there was no online ordering or any other apps on people’s phones in which they could use.  But over time technology has become so advanced it’s basically taken over which is why it took me several tries before I was able to comprehend everything but once I did things went smoothly.  So every time I go to work it’s not a struggle due to the fact that I can do my job with no difficulties despite each day becoming more and more hectic due to online orders.  You’d think management would know me by now realizing I can’t simply be thrown into something and be expected to immediately begin performing the task but apparently that’s not the case since on Monday, the busiest day of the year for online orders they scheduled me to do just that.  What I should have done was told management or at least my manager that I’d be unable to handle acquiring order after innumerable order but I didn’t want it to look as if I simply didn’t want to do it.  Yet someone else who is more tech savvy would have had no qualms nor struggles with it.

 

What began as a day at work turned into a nightmarish hell.  Now mind you unlike most people who own modernized cell phones I still have my flip phone since I don’t text, take pictures nor rely on it as means of social survival as many do yet when I came to work and already had misgivings about having to be the only person going to get items for constant online orders I was given a quick tutorial on what buttons to push in order to locate then place objects in their correct location.  This is also something I cannot simply be thrown into as whenever I’ve been taught how to perform functions such as this it’s taken me longer than most since I must practice several times beforehand.  In addition, this was an absolutely crazy day with order after endless online order being processed, nonstop calls overhead to management as well as other departments since now is the biggest time for retailers and it was just overall a chaotic day.  After being rapidly told what to do I was nervous as hell but proceeded to the backroom to obtain the first item.  That went off without a hitch and during the interim I performed other duties.  But a little while later an order of four large items appeared requiring me to once again go into the backroom and ask the same person to help me find all four items despite him having his own orders to process.  This time; however, instead of simply scanning the item into a location nothing happened.  Not only did I have four enormous items on a cart I had no place to put them and no name.  Why?  Because I had never before done this and was basically thrown into 50 feet of water after having been calmly swimming in 5 feet for years.  Right after that another huge order pops up but by now my anxiety level was through the roof and when this happens I lose focus on everything else and begin to panic bigtime.  Once again I went into the backroom I’ve now begun to dread and had to ask someone else about a large dresser only to be told I’d have to get a flat to put it on.  By this time I honestly felt like I was going to have a breakdown as I went around the corner to locate more items and was among about fifteen people scrambling to get surges of incoming orders processed.  If that weren’t bad enough after asking someone about utility tubs I needed to get I was told I’d have to go onto the sales floor to retrieve the rest of them.  So I now had a flat containing a huge dresser along with four large utility tubs and was now having to go onto the floor to get two more tubs in addition to having there be other items on the order and that basically broke me as I literally felt myself drowning in the now 100 feet of ice cold water.  All of a sudden I was beyond angst as tears began flooding my eyes at which point one of the managers noticed and tried reassuring me things were OK until he saw me break down as I told him I was trying but couldn’t get all the items.  Thankfully he realized the severity of the matter and had me go back to the department in which I feel most comfortable in as someone else took my place.  While I felt beyond relief about being where I felt most serene my head was spinning with questions such as why I was put in a most anguishing of situations when I’d never before even practiced how to carry out this particular task.  Another question was why I can’t simply learn at a fast pace like others who had also never before done this but were able to handle it.  What if I had just told someone prior to this ever occurring that I wouldn’t be able to do it and asked to switch with someone else?  Would management have had someone else change places with me or refused thus explaining to me that it was required?  I’ll never know but this was a lesson in knowing my capabilities as well as restrictions and if I’m ever faced with having to do something which I know will be an arduous job I’ll tell someone I either need to practice several times beforehand or simply cannot handle it and will use this most distressing experience as a prime example.  Many people can learn things quickly and have no problem with change.  Unfortunately, I’m not one of them which may explain why I have such an affinity for almost everything from the 1980’s and dislike change immensely.