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Is There No End?

Posted by on Feb 16, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

I’ve never written three separate entries within the span of three days but due to yesterday’s unfathomable tragedy taken place at yet another high school I feel compelled to do so.  I hadn’t heard about the devastating events that unfolded until I’d gotten home from mass and saw it on the news.  My God what’s happening in this world?  I now feel like my parents when I say that things like this never happened when I was in school.  Kids bringing guns to school for what?  Anger?  Revenge?  I never thought heinous acts like this could occur but I was even more horrified upon learning that this is the eighteenth school shooting to happen this year.  What the f*ck?  Eighteen shootings at places where kids as well as adults go to receive an education in this country?  This is the reason why I rarely watch the news because of the atrocious crimes being committed worldwide.  I never thought I’d see the day when it would get to the point that metal detectors would be implemented in any type of school but when you’ve got kids bringing contraband that’s the outcome.  

 

The public as well as media outlets can try to assess the situation to the moon and back by blaming movies, television, video games, social media and any other source by which kids can view violence but there’s really no clear-cut answer for this.  When I was in school ADHD wasn’t mentioned but today you hear so many cases of it and the medication kids are taking for it.  Do they play a key role in adolescent’s deciding to shoot up a school?  Are they taking mind-altering drugs or are they suffering from (often times) an undiagnosed form of mental illness?  Then there’s the controversial topic of firearms in regards to whether or not there should be federal bans on them as this is most prevalent following a mass shooting.  There are numerous perspectives when looking at violence in schools and the contributing factors but is there an answer or a way to prevent another disaster like this from happening?  I don’t think there is.

 

How many times do kids who are angered say they want to kill someone?  Yet the following day they’re fine as if nothing happened.  What about people who pose with weapons or post ominous messages on their social media accounts?  If the police or F.B.I. were to investigate every one of these cases it not only would be futile many times there’s not enough hard evidence to prove somebody’s actually intent on harming others so it’s left alone.  Nobody knows what homicidal thoughts are racing through a person’s mind if they don’t say anything and many times if they do that person doesn’t take them seriously.  It’s easy to say afterward what could have or should have been done to prevent such a catastrophe but let’s face it if a person has a detailed plan of going on a murderous rampage and doesn’t say or do anything to anybody to cause alarm it’s not something that can be prevented.  Right now people will be talking about this most horrific of tragedies but as time goes by it will start to fade out of the spotlight just as all the other deadly shootings in the past have until another killing spree occurs.  But what can be done about it?  Again, it’s much easier said than done.    

 

These past two days have been beyond emotionally draining for me which is why I’m going to watch The Goonies as a way of temporarily escaping the realm of reality as I pray not only for the victims of this most senseless act but also for their family and friends.                                                               

                   

Abstinence Unattainable

Posted by on Feb 15, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

While I’m pleased that I was able to not only receive ashes but to also attend mass last night someone brought up a relevant point that I’d completely forgotten about.  Giving something up for Lent.  I’ve tried several times in the past to forgo eating chocolate, my absolute weakness but by the third or forth day my indulgence for cocoa entirely takes over my abstention and I feel consumed with guilt.  Same thing goes for Starbucks coffee.  Last year I tried telling myself I could go forty-six days (the actual amount of days which begin on Ash Wednesday and last until Holy Saturday including the 6 Sundays) without it but by the second week my intense craving for White Chocolate Mocha overpowered my fasting and there went my religious observance.

 

So this year I decided to not even try to forbear from something I really enjoy in terms of edible substances since no matter how hard I try I always end up losing my willpower thus feeling remorseful afterward.  No more!  As long as I adhere to not eating meat every Friday until Easter Sunday which I probably won’t anyway, attend church and don’t commit any mortal sins which I have no intention of doing then I think I’m OK.  At least I hope so. 

 

Now that Lent is this particular of topics I question whether or not people who refrain from something they truly enjoy during Lent such as smoking or giving up sweets can really last the duration or give up after a certain amount of time due to extreme hankering of their weakness such as myself.  For some it’s easy to restrain themselves from what they take pleasure in be it drinking alcohol, watching television or even swearing and I commend them for that but for someone like me it’s almost impossible since I have an absolute sweet tooth which coincides with me drinking my coffee from Starbucks.  I know for a fact that many people who give up something for Lent won’t be able to follow through for the entire time due to their strong desire for what they’ve been depriving themselves of whether it’s food, nicotine, social media or a multitude of other things they have an extreme affinity for.  And if you really think about it what’s going to happen if someone can’t or doesn’t desist from something?  Are they going to be struck down as form of punishment?  Better yet what about those who do in fact give up what they really like?  Are good things going to come to them as a result?  Well, maybe but at least I feel a tad better now.   

 

Ashes and Hearts

Posted by on Feb 14, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

     

 

I can’t remember the last time Ash Wednesday was on Valentine’s Day.  Come to think of it I never realized they could both share the same day so I did a bit of research and found out the last time Ash Wednesday fell on Valentine’s Day was back in 1945.  Thankfully I overheard someone talking about it otherwise I would’ve completely forgotten about it being the first day of Lent, eaten some type of chicken since I’m not big on meat then felt guilt-ridden upon discovering what I’d done.  I’m so glad that the mass is in the evening so I’ll be able to attend it unlike the past several years due to my work schedule.

 

As for Valentine’s Day I savor chocolate but that’s the extent of it.  I’ve never been fond of flowers or roses and can’t think of a better way to celebrate the most lovey-dovey of holidays than to watch the most fitting of movies such as the 1981 slasher film My Bloody Valentine which pretty much sums up my viewpoint of  St. Valentine’s Day.

   

Wills and the Aftermath

Posted by on Feb 2, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

 

 

This particular entry is one I’ve been wanting to post for a while now as it gives new meaning to the proverb “Where there’s a will, there’s a way” or in this case a way out for some.  It’s also something that’s gone on in families for years and will continue to indefinitely.  Anyone having gone through the formalities of a will, especially if it pertains to a substantial amount of money, property or other article of value can more than identify with what I’m about to write.  Many families, large or small are extremely tight-knit enjoying get-togethers as often as possible.  Of course not everyone agrees on everything particularly at holidays and when coupled with alcohol which happens quite frequently in families but nonetheless it’s still a time for people to all visit with each other.  While family gatherings can be a time of happiness, stories, laughter, numerous photos and of course food things can drastically change when a member possessing a vast financial portfolio passes away.  The smiles abruptly fade thus exhibiting peoples’ true colors as dark as can be.

 

Whether someone passes away from old age, a long-suffering illness, suddenly or any other unfortunate manner if they were well off in terms of resources just about everyone’s hands become outreached in wanting their share.  Of course there’s the heartache and tears, especially at the funeral, wake or other type of service held but once the procession is over and the grief has somewhat subsided the subject of the will arises as the tears quickly dry replaced with widened eyes and perked up ears at the thought of what relatives will soon be inheriting.

 

Whether family members attend the reading of the will or receive a copy in the mail often times when they learn what, how much or little they’ll be receiving as opposed to others emotions ranging from jealousy to pure rage are immediately incited.  Some feeling a sense of entitlement while others think certain people should never have been written in.  By the time the estate attorney or whoever else reading the will aloud or the person/persons reading it on paper is finished some are ecstatic over their newly acquired inheritance while others want to punch specific beneficiaries in their throat, throats or possibly commit some other bodily injury to them.  I’m sure they’ll also be cursing the testator due to their decision as to who gets what.  

 

I can only imagine the expletives spoken/screamed by relatives who feel completely f*cked over once they get into their vehicles as they leave or have finished reading what they’ve just been left.  Forget the family functions as now emotions of bitterness, resentment and possibly hate run strong thus destroying any future plans of togetherness for years to come if not permanently.  Suddenly widows, siblings and every relative named or not named in the will feel they should have received more or at least something while at the same time they feel others shouldn’t have gotten anything.  Before long accusations begin, family members start dredging up things from the past while claiming to be perfect and before you know it that once close family is no more.  You now look at your family who, just weeks or even days earlier were as thick as thieves but now due to the death of a member who had a large amount of money, property, valuables and even insurance policies certain people aren’t speaking to one another while verbal as well as physical confrontations occur among others and in many cases family members contest the will for a number of reasons.  This is prevalent in many families as it’s occurred in mine on more than one occasion and I guarantee things are never the same as they’d once been prior to the loss of a relative.

 

Then there are situations of someone having been in a relationship with a person.  They’re as much a couple as can be except they aren’t married and neither is in the other person’s will.  They do everything together including having children then one of them dies unexpectedly and immediately the man or woman’s family shows up complete with their attorney and World War III erupts.  Since there was no will the deceased person’s family claims they have exclusive rights to his/her worldly goods while their better half fights back and since a child or children are involved it becomes even more contentious.  From litigation to going so far as to hire private investigators to dig up their past it becomes an absolute nightmare for everyone involved and many times the end results are not fair.  The same thing goes if the man or woman has children from a previous marriage or relationship as now they’re clashing with their parent’s domestic partner in court over what else?  MONEY!!!!!!!  Even going so far as to evict that person from the home they’ve been living at with their partner and many times the children legally have that right.  Lovely.

 

There are also times when illegitimate children suddenly appear out of nowhere after the person they’re claiming to be their parent who was well off dies adding more unnecessary grief to the family or other member who mysteriously crawls out of the woodwork now that a relative they’ve only met a few times, once or never has passed as they deviously seize the opportunity to cash in.  The perfect plot for innumerable Lifetime Movies.

 

Isn’t it strange how, when someone wealthy becomes ill and knows they don’t have much time suddenly relatives who’ve had little or no contact with them begin to appear making it seem as if they’re worried about their ailing aunt, grandfather, etc. when in reality they just want a piece of the pie filling and all only to discover it’s often times rancid?  Many times they’re hoping to make it big by relying on their family member to kick the bucket in hopes of inheriting bank.  Forget working at a job like most people just wait for your rich relative to croak.  And let’s not forget kissing one’s ass in hopes of collecting which is quite prevalent in families as the outcome is sometimes in the person or leeches’ favor yet other times is not.    

 

That old saying of how life isn’t fair is exemplified especially when it comes to wills in terms of who gets what and how much when a sizable amount of money is involved.  I can only imagine the infinite number of families who’ve battled each other out in court over a relative’s assets often times making them like asses.  Insults slurred, allegations yelled, fistfights, gavel pounding and everything in between because everybody involved wants what they feel is theirs.  Those who say money doesn’t always change people can try bullshitting themselves but let them be named as beneficiary in someone’s will and inherit a considerable amount of cash then we’ll see if they’re the same person as beforehand.  

 

There’s a program called The Will: Family Secrets Revealed that, unfortunately is no longer on that depicted real-life stories of celebrities, political figures and other important people who bequeathed what and to whom which caused nothing but dissention and legal disputes sometimes fueled by greed yet others simply wanting what’s just.  Whether it’s the children fighting their mother/father’s spouse who, most times isn’t their biological parent over money, high-priced items, property or in many instances royalties.  Often times it’s the second or third wife of someone notably wealthy who only married him for his money and is now wrangling with his kids, who are many times around the same age or even younger than them as her over his estate.  There have been so many stories about famous people and the internal chaos enduring in their family as they all go for the jugular in terms of getting what they want.  The sad thing is most of the time the stepmother or sibling winds up with the majority of the funds while the children receive only a portion of them.  I loved watching the program because it made me realize no matter how rich a family is they also have problems.  Sometimes more than others as they strive for what they believe is theirs.       

 

Then there are lessons parents or other relative like to teach members of their family.  Take for example, an astute businessman who amassed a fortune and his kids feel they’ll be more than taken care of after he’s gone.  Imagine their aghast upon discovering he left them only a fraction of his net worth or nothing at all depending on the person with the rest being divided between his wife which most likely won’t be his first and may even include HER children, various charities or someone/something else.  They’re immediately consumed with immense rage and possibly hatred even resulting in them being glad they’re father’s dead.  Why?  Because as his children they felt deserving of having his entire estate be equally split among them and now they feel royally f*cked over.  Maybe they were but at the same time maybe their father had reasons for doing what he did.  Whatever the case this has happened in many families and whether it’s right or wrong it undoubtedly affects each member.

 

My feelings run deep regarding money inherited from someone’s will as I know firsthand how much friction it can cause.  It’s also one of the many reasons why families are never the same as they’d once been following the passing of someone having had a tremendous amount of means.  I also feel that in many situations those who are left a significant amount of money are not at all deserving of it while those who truly are receive only a snippet of what they should.  A prime example of how unjust life can be.  Such are the cases of men/women who marry solely for the purpose of financial gain.  They cause a lifetime of turmoil among their now widowed family often times with the end result being that they’ll be set for life or at least for a time being depending on their lifestyles while the children of the deceased receive a paltry amount of what they should have.  Almost as if the widow or black widow has the devil on her/his shoulder.

 

Other instances include family members, business partners, so-called friends or a number of other unscrupulous people who manipulate somebody into changing their will or naming them sole beneficiary of their entire estate.  Another example could be family members or distant relatives who are not at all close to someone yet due to a number of legal reasons could end up with all that person’s valuables including policies whereas that same person could have had a caregiver who always made sure they were fed, clothed and alright but since they had no will made out that person’s out of luck unless of course they want to take it to court thus adding more compounding problems to the situation.

 

The list goes on in terms of how completely arduous it can be when it comes to the protocols of a will including everyone involved but one thing I know is that life has a way of balancing or in this particular circumstance evening things out.  While it’s true that greed consumes countless people, especially upon learning (or planning) that they’re being named as beneficiary in someone’s will all the cash/materialistic objects they obtain are not at all good and if anything are evil goods.  It’s not money they worked for but rather collected or schemed to get their hands on and despite whatever acquisitive items they buy with that corrupt money I like to think it will most definitely come back to them in more ways than they could ever think possible.  Unfortunately; however, it doesn’t always work like that as there are people who commit malevolent acts their entire lives and nothing ever happens to them.  They live superb lives despite what they did to get the money but instead of karma coming back at them they continue to live carefree, often times extravagant lives.  That’s when one questions God as I have innumerable times and will for the rest of my life. 

Spirited Saturday

Posted by on Jan 28, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

                                               

 

Yesterday I had the afternoon off and just the sight of grass even if it’s horrendously muddy outside excites me.  Ever since December the snow’s been dreadful.  Mounds of white crapola, frigid weather and no desire to go out.  So being able to look out and see the neighborhood instead of piles of snow in front of each person’s house is a wonderful thing.  I was all ready to exercise when the doorbell rang.  Imagine my surprise to see two girls selling what else but Girl Scout Cookies.  Being a former Girl Scout I had to fulfill my obligation since I always hoped people would buy from me.  With that I purchased four boxes but what many people don’t realize is that when the Girl Scouts go door-to-door it’s a sign that spring’s not too far away.  While I don’t mind winter it’s the snow I absolutely loathe and after almost two months of seeing it, having to drive in it and just wanting it gone being able to look outside at having it be bright gives a person a more positive outlook on life or at least for the day.  Add Girl Scout Cookies to the mix and it can’t get any better.  Well, it could but yesterday gave me hope.  I also had a better work out than I would have had the bell not rung.

 

 

Spontaneity

Posted by on Jan 25, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Today was quite productive yet not at all planned.  Since I got off work early I decided to go to church seeing that I no longer attend mass.  Thank you Catholic Diocese.  So after spending a little more than an hour I happened to stroll into this particular room that has knick-knacks for people to purchase which goes toward the church.  At first nothing caught my eye but while reading through their books I saw one titled The Vatican’s Exorcists.  It couldn’t have been a more fitting title so of course I bought it.  It’ll be the perfect thing to read after watching one of my real-life crime dramas about someone being murdered.  When I was finished since I had nothing more to do I figured it was the absolute perfect day to give blood.  I haven’t in almost a year-and-a-half and my blood type is exactly what is needed due to the shortage at this time.  I also said a little prayer in hopes that my blood wouldn’t be deferred as it had once been several years ago.

 

Thankfully I had the required level to be able to give and it’s really a good feeling knowing I could help people who need it.  It’s also the perfect excuse to go home, put on my jammies and do nothing but watch television for the rest of the night which is exactly what I plan on doing.  In all the times I’ve given blood never once have I made an appointment.  I just go in and despite often times waiting it always seems to work out.  Sometimes when you strategize it never seem to turn out well yet other times when you do things spur-of-the-moment the end result is fantabulous!  

 

Sweet Dreams which I’ll totally have once I begin reading my book. 

Major Vehicle Phobia

Posted by on Jan 21, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

So I planned on ringing in the New Year by posting the most thought-provoking and brutally honest entry yet only I miscalculated the length of time it would take as I’m still in the process of writing it so what better a time than now to explain my beyond apprehension when it comes to backing out of spots in parking lots.  It absolutely terrifies me so I always try to park in the space ahead so all I have to do is simply drive out.  There are times; however, when the only way to park is in a spot that requires the backing up of a vehicle unless of course one wants to drive forward thus causing severe damage to their car, truck or SUV in addition to possibly getting fined for what could be considered vandalizing public property.  That said or in this case written when I’m forced to back out of a spot it takes the word anxiety to sky-high levels.  

 

I panic that while backing out another car driving by might not see me as is the case many times in parking lots and hit me, then there are people walking by I may not see as well as having an overall feeling of dislike since driving forward is just so simple.  You get in, look both ways, pull forward and you’re off.  Whereas when backing out there’s the turning of the wheel and the constant watching to make sure no one’s coming.  Driving forward is just much better for me.  

 

There are times if I go to a store and the only nearby spots available require backing out I’ll walk further just to be able to park where I can drive out.  Walking several more steps are more than worth hearing a crash or a scream.

End of Holidaze

Posted by on Jan 2, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Words can’t begin to describe my elation over the fact that the holidays are finally over.  No more maudlin Christmas songs that have been re-recorded over and over again.  No more decorations I’ve been forced to view for the better part of the last two months.  And last but not least an end to the sappy movies which Lifetime has been airing since November.  Call me a Grinch but I’m so tired of having to celebrate the same holiday year after year from unnecessary spending, receiving items which most times becomes a return and the entire hubbub that goes along with it.  I haven’t even begun my returns yet and the thought of having to do so is enough for me to want to get back into my pajamas and stay in them for the next week.  I’m just glad they’re over and done.  That is until ten months from now.

Just Another Day

Posted by on Dec 31, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Since this is my last entry for the year it’s the perfect time to write of the first time I heard the idiom “See you next year” which I took literally.  I was in my fifth grade P.E. class and as we were leaving my teacher told us “See you next year” and I was so confused as I’d never heard anyone use that phrase before.  For the rest of the day I really thought we not only had Christmas break but that we wouldn’t have to go back to school for a year.  My hopes were completely dashed; however, when I got home and asked my mother what my teacher meant and she said it was something many people say if they’re not going to see someone until after New Year’s Eve.  Damn. 

 

As stated in previous entries I’m not a New Year’s Eve person at all and the more people talk about the upcoming year the more I want to stay in the early 80’s.  Speaking of which I’m watching Classic MTV and wishing they would play music videos from 1980-1989 continuously.  Truly wishful thinking.  This is how eventful my New Year’s Eve is.  I’m making a list all of my prior calendars from years past to ensure the one I get for 2018 is entirely different from the rest as it’s extremely important to have the most perfect calendar to view each day.  

 

I am looking forward to four fun-filled hours of real-life crimes all taken place on New Year’s Eve.  So let the others watch the ball drop I’ll be captivated by murders thus furthering my already overly suspicious mind.  Cheerio.   

Glimmering Snow and Shimmering Lights

Posted by on Dec 22, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Once again Christmas is upon us but unlike when I was younger and anxiously awaited Santa’s arrival the holidays have now become meaningless.  Malls and other retailers displaying Christmas merchandise as early as October since the holiday is  now all about how they can all meet and surpass their quotas.   While  I’m as disillusioned as one could be pertaining to Christmas as well as New Year’s Eve which is my least favorite holiday there are certain things I’m absolutely enamored with such as snow globes.  Ever since I remember seeing my first snow globe when I was in kindergarten I’ve been completely enthralled with them.  Miniature artwork from tiny people to innumerable other objects figure enclosed in glass filled with water and artificial snow while atop a ceramic figure is so serene and when you shake it the synthetic snow disperses all over making it appear as if it’s a glass-filled fantasy.  

It’s amazing how many styles of snow globes, also referred to as water globes exist.  Cities, animals and landmarks just to name a few that are captivating to look at.  There are variations of snow globes including ones that light up, play music and have electric motors enabling automatic snow to swirl around without having to be shaken and every time I turn one of those on it makes me wish I were inside that very glass-encased globe with fake or real (depending on my mood) snow fluttering all around me.  Talk about a major Winter Wonderland.

 

Objects made with LED lights are another dazzling creation I revel in looking at.  Whether it’s of a flashing snowman, Santa or a number of other eye-catching items they’re enchanting to look at especially while watching real-life crime shows which may explain why I own several.  In fact, just a few days ago when I was finishing the last of my dreaded holiday shopping I came across a magical night light that not only interchanges between three color modes it also has a star mode so when it turns on multiple stars along with the moon appear.  All that’s missing are hearts, clovers, diamonds and horseshoes which are shape of the marshmallows in Lucky Charms cereal.  Now I totally want a bowl of  Lucky Charms but only if the little leprechaun appears.  I guess they really are magically delicious!